Marriage

Back in my day, I felt like our goal was to find someone to build a life together. 

You know?

It wasn’t about having everything together and then merging lives; I wanted someone who would walk beside me and together we would make our lives one. 

I didn’t want to move into “his” house. I wanted “our” house. 

I wanted to go together and pick out furniture. 

I wanted to choose the dishes we used for company. 

I wanted the two of us to pick out a color scheme for our linens, our kitchen towels and our bathroom. 

Today it seems the young adults are wanting their lives settled before settling down. They want to be established before planting roots. 

I don’t get it. 

What happened to two becoming one, becoming a family? What happened to building a life together founded on Christ?

Just as God is the center of my focus, He is the center and foundation of my family. Everything we do revolves around the Lord and Church. Our plans are laid out specifically for us to worship God. 

That is how my husband and I started. 

We started out with absolutely nothing. When we moved into our first house, we had no electricity, no water, no phone. Thankfully the weather was mild and we could get water from town. And honestly, I hated the phone when it came. But we had each other.

No, it isn’t easy. Marriage is hard work. Having children is hard work. Building a life with so many strong personalities is hard work. But with God as our center, we always come back to Him. 

I think that’s what’s missing many times: the struggle that makes a marriage strong. Maybe that’s why so many couples split up, they don’t have God as their foundation. In every trial, we beg for the Lord to show us His way and lead us in His path. 

I am blessed beyond measure. And I thank my Lord for giving me mercy, grace, and guidance. Without Him, nothing I have would be possible.